3 Questions You Need to Ask Before Entertaining a Non-Christian Suitor.

Think about this...
Think about this…

Ok, so this blog is for Christian women who are considering to go out with a guy but they found out that the guy is not a Christian (but he’s really good looking and admirable.) What will you do? I believe there are questions that should bug your mind before entertaining the idea of it. I also believe getting godly counsel will help you make wise decision as you face emotional issues. I suggest these 3 questions needs time to be thought through and get someone who can bounce off their godly wisdom to you. Here are the questions:

1. Do I really accept him for who he is or do I plan to convert him?

If you want to convert him, he has to know ASAP. It would be unfair for the guy to know that there is a hidden agenda to change him especially when the dating progresses to a serious relationship.

2. Is he the leader I want to lead me in my walk with Jesus?

If you desire that the man that you want to have in your life is someone who can bring you closer to Jesus, it’s important to think where the guy can lead you. His sweet character is at its best good for your interactions but not necessarily essential to lead you into a direction that will love Jesus more.

3. What values can we share together that will honor Jesus?

Relationship shares values with each other. Your values in its core wants to honor Jesus. On the other side, his values “might be” different than yours. Your interactions will be fun but direction and growth might not progress.

I believe your growth and maturity in Jesus is affected by the romantic relationships you are in. In its broader sense any relationship you have affects your growth as a Christian.

That’s why Paul mentioned in his letter to Corinthians, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers…”

The main thought in this verse is if a person is unequally yoked with an unbeliever, he/she won’t go anywhere. It’s an agricultural principle and it has an implication to our personal lives as well.

Hope these questions help our Christian women not to fall on something that might be a trap for them.

What other questions should a woman think when she encounters this dilemma?

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Great Questions Leaders Should Ask

Great Questions Leaders Should Ask

Questions are powerful tools to build or destroy a mindset. It can also cause a leader to move beyond what he can do. Asking ourselves

Asking ourselves questions reflect what is valuable to us as a leader.

questions reflect what is valuable to us as a leader. It can change a behavior of the one being ask.

This is true to me as a leader, there are times where I don’t want to do the things that I ought to do because of selfishness and pride. There are also times where I want to do the things that I shouldn’t do as leader. The questions I listed are questions I always ask everyday, these are not my own ideas, I got these from other leaders who face the same challenges everyday.

1. What can I do to add value to you? This question really forces me to think how I can help other people (my wife, my friends, family, work mates)

2. Will this give God honor? This question checks the wisdom in my heart. It leads me not just to obey God’s commands but to seek what God really wants and His intentions in a specific matter.

3. What does love require of me? This question for me is a game changer. I got this from Andy Stanley and what this question checks on me is the intention and motivation on why I do what I do. Is it to love the people around me? or it for my selfish gain? Is it to love God? or to twist a favor from God?

“Much of life is asking the right questions”.  I got this from my pastor and it really guided me how I live my life as a leader today.

What questions can we ask ourselves to do great things for God and people?