Just came back from an overnight retreat for married couples. It was really a relaxing and mind opening experience. I believe I learned 10 years worth of lessons for my married life. I’m really blessed to be surrounded with godly husbands and wives who also experienced the same joys and challenges in their marriage.
I met a couple in the retreat who were married 53 years! Whew! Talking about lifetime commitment in marriage. Tito Bomboy and Tita Vicky Fabregas shared their testimony of how God lead their marriage, the good times, the bad times and the redeemed times. Hearing them really gave me and my wife a great vision of marriage and how we can love and respect each other more. It’s a life-changing experience.
1. Forgiveness – I had a chance of asking Tito Bomboy about forgiveness in the context of marriage. What he answered was really a turn around moment for me. He said, “In marriage, you have to take away pride and unforgiveness to last long in marriage. What is important to you, your hurt or your love for your wife?” This question will really resonate in my life as long as I live.
2. Commitment – I really appreciate how it was defined in the retreat by Pastor Paolo Punzalan. He said, “Commitment is making a choice to give up other choices.
It was a great learning experience for us. More than that, it caused my heart to change to love people more especially my wife.
What other principles that can be of help to enjoy and last long in marriage?